Personal Life Coaching Second Step: Act
The second step to goal actualization is strong action. Creatures of habit tend to conduct themselves, almost ninety percent of the time, on automatic pilot. Therefore, strong actions turn quickly into habits when practiced frequently, which creates an upward spiral of reinforcement until it becomes totally natural to be proactive. Creative habits will help to accomplish something related to the primary goal every day. It is imperative that this be practiced each day without fail. If perfect partner is what is sought, for example, something must be done about it every day. Approaching others, reading, and socializing are all acceptable activities. If many changes cannot be handled all at once, changes on a 21 to 30 day cycle can be implemented, followed by moving to the next one. For example, becoming an early riser for the purpose of making time for exercise. If exercise is usually too difficult and the combination of both activities breaks down the commitment, a commitment to wake up early every day is a more acceptable start. Then, after 30 days, the exercise can begin.
There is always an appropriate time to stop thinking. The thinking for the day is done at the beginning, and it should be followed by action. At this stage, thinking can slow or totally inhibit any accomplishment. Being too tired, feeling as though it can’t be done, the perceived need for relaxation, and procrastination, are all of the most common types of negative thinking. The mind is a great tool but it is only a tool. Letting it take control and placing too much trust in one’s thoughts is a pattern of failure. The heart, and passion, and the desires within are the motivators that keep the mind focused. Immersion in the moment, is the key.
Experimentation is the first step to achieving total authenticity. Copying other people in an attempt to be “cool” is paradox. Being cool is being different. For instance, having the courage to try different clothes brings a better understanding of what works. It can be surprising. For instance, for some, wearing hats may feel ridiculous. However, if a great number of compliments came from peers, it becomes natural and comfortable to wear hats. People even begin to associate another’s persona with new habits like this. Being creative can be a part of anything or any behaviour. Speech, what is said, and even the way one carries himself or walks can be unique and valuable. Being the same as someone else sets up a constant comparison and promotes high competition. In other words, if there is more of something around, the price usually goes down.
Independent action also breaks the mould. Being dependent on anyone or anything creates a weakness. The “do it yourself” spirit is another key driving force for progress. When on dependent mode, the feeling of being naked and unable to act follows every attempt at change. This sometimes happens when action is most needed. It can be a favourite clothing style, a favourite place to go out, a favourite friend, and even one’s precious social status. Mediocrity will always be the mode of the day when the chains of dependence hold fast. It is very difficult to be independent, and the world requires the strength to overcome those difficulties if success is ever to be reached.
Finally, interruptions will result in total failure. Other people and even oneself can stick a leg out and trip the most determined traveller. This is a crucial point and sometimes the most tricky one to fix because of the emotional element that comes with it. Silly things, like visiting the same website repeatedly just to pass the time are common interrupters. Checking emails and Facebook, reading unimportant news, watching invaluable television shows, and other classic methods of procrastination are diseases that kill dreams. Other people will also kill it. Some time should be spent considering whose life is intermingled with the goals that have been set. If people are often negative, or suck the momentum out of anything with which they come into contact, they must be cut loose. The sage surrounds himself with those he respects and admires.
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